The Secret of surviving negativity

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The secret of surviving negativity is dependent, of course, on your state of mind, but there really is no need to beat yourself up about it.  

There is a wonderful and inspiring book called The Power of Positive Thinking  by Norman Vincent Peale published in Great Britain as long ago as 1953 and it is still available to buy today.

You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will

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I discovered  Norman Vincent Peale’s book in W H Smith & Sons in 1972.  At that time I was travelling a lot, leaving home very early, working very hard and returning home late at night. 

I suffered frequently from severe headaches which, predictably, turned into migraines at the weekend, I didn’t have a girlfriend at the time, there wasn’t enough recreation in my life, I felt stressed out and there weren’t so many positive thoughts going through my mind.

At the time, the book was just what I needed.  The first words of the first chapter are:  “BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!  Have faith in your abilities!”  Those words still resonate with me. 

Those words should be inscribed at the foot of everyone’s bed and above every doorway in their houses or apartments. 

You can pick up a copy of the book these days for a very few dollars, and I strongly recommend it to you. 

It has been a source of motivation to me for many years and I have passed it on to several family members and friends.

The secret of avoiding negativity – an incomplete answer

But positive thinking pure and simple isn’t the complete answer.  As Dr John DeMartini rightly says, there is no such thing as a one-sided magnet. 

There will be those things that we perceive in our life to be good and those we perceive to be bad.  Those are labels we put on them. 

To the universe they are just events, and what one person perceives to be good will be viewed as bad by another. 

So much depends upon your perspective at that time and in that particular place.

The secret of avoiding negativity - a balanced perspective

It will lead you to greater peace and fulfilment in your life if you can see matters in a balanced way rather than as positive and negative. 

Whenever you are feeling unduly elated in your life, you can be sure that there is something around the corner waiting to pull you back down into equilibrium. 

Equally, when you are feeling down for some reason look closely around you, for there is someone or something supporting you to bring you back to that balanced state.

The universe is balanced and on course

No-matter what we as human beings think, the universe is balanced and completely able to take care of itself. 

Scientists believe it is 13.7 billion years old, that it is 93 light years across and it is filled with – wait for it – over 100 billion galaxies each containing hundreds of billions of stars. 

The Milky Way, our own galaxy, contains somewhere between 200 and 400 billion stars.  Light itself takes 100,000 years to cross our galaxy alone. 

If you stand on the edge of our galaxy you won’t even be able to see our planet let alone the human beings who inhabit it. 

So don’t get carried away with the idea that our species is important, that some individual is enlightened, or that we can in some way affect the course of the universe. 

It is not even profitable to dwell there.

The secret of avoiding negativity – believe in yourself

As Norman Vincent Peale writes, believe in yourself.  It is very easy these days to be dragged down by what we perceive as going on around us as represented on the television and radio and in the newspapers. 

Those beliefs are fed to us by journalists seeking to report a story and giving it a sensational twist in order to catch the headlines; some of them are rather less than the truth.

So don’t accept as gospel what you read in the newspapers.  If you really want to know what is going on, find out for yourself. 

I have listened to debates in the British Parliament, and I have appeared in court in many cases that have afterwards been reported in the press and, quite frankly, I have wondered whether I have been in the same place as the reporter. 

I have been there to scrutinise the evidence and get the facts as clear as possible, but the reporter has attended to pick on one tiny scrap of, often irrelevant, evidence and used the words to create a sensational story.

You can overcome negativity by filling your head with good thoughts.  If you are able, get out each day and get some exercise and meet people. 

The exercise needn’t be vigorous; walking is good enough. The object is to oxygenate the brain. If you can participate in some sort of activity a few times a week, so much the better. 

Exercise your mind.  Read.  Listen to some pleasant music.  Again, if you play a musical instrument or sing, even better.  There is nothing like music for lifting the soul.

If you like sport and are able bodied, play it.  If you can’t play, perhaps you can help organise it, or at least watch it.  Vary your interests. 

Don’t be a one-sport to-be-avoided-at-all-costs bore.  The more you vary your interests, the more interesting you will be and the wider your circle of friends and acquaintances will become. 

You see, there are countless ways to avoid negativity without relying solely on positive thinking, and we have just scratched the surface.

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